THERE CAN BE NO PEACE ON EARTH AS LONG AS THERE Is WAR IN LOVE
	ABOUT THE BOOK: EROS UNREDEEMED
	“I have written this book because it was inevitable. The issue of sexual love had to be seen and dealt with from a different perspective. It is the issue of our time, although the proclaimed slogans may sound different. It is said that the sexual revolution is a thing of the past, but from within, it hasn’t really started yet. Today more people suffer or become ill as a result of an unresolved longing for sex and love than from environmental pollution.” (Dieter Duhm)

In a direct and committed language Dieter Duhm describes the state of love in our culture today. He places the unsolved issues of jealousy, free love, faithfulness, longing, impotence, morals etc. at the center of the question of true non-violence and peace. From the experience of free love he develops new perspectives for a new way of living, where love between two people no longer excludes free love. He describes the philosophical and social basis for a culture in which jealousy is no longer a natural law, where sexual desires no longer have to be suppressed and where faithfulness between two lovers no longer breaks down because of too narrow a vision of love.
”Knowing love” is the term he uses for the process of developing a culture without sexual repression, fear and violence.

”This book is important for everyone to read, because it is provocative. It causes a stir and shakes up the rigid way of thinking most people have. It is a plan for a society and a way of life that I’ve been longing for since I was 16. ‘High-Tech in War - Neanderthal in Love’, such chapters are simply true."
Lisa Fitz
(cabaret artist)

”This book is so true that I cannot add anything to it. I am grateful for so much courage and I hope that these thoughts about sexual liberation can be realized."
Prof. Ernest Bornemann
(Germany’s leading sexologist)

”Of all the books about partnership that have been so popular in the last few years none of them has dealt with the issues of sexuality, eros and love as honestly and as thoughtfully as this new book by Dieter Duhm. His first book, ‘Fear in Capitalism’, published twenty years ago, had already opened my eyes. Once again I was strongly moved, and I am sure the book will have a lasting effect on me, as it will on many other readers as well."
Robert Jungk
(Germany’s leading futurologist)

”A book against resignation.
A book in favor of Eros, Sexuality and Love.
A book about hope.
I wish this contribution to peace a wide audience."
Heide-Marie Emmermann
(author)

”This is a book by a visionary thinker who brilliantly formulates his vision of liberated sexuality. A strong blow to a society that constantly speaks about a sexual revolution, but that combats any attempt at creating a truly liberated sexuality through censorship, the praise of jealousy, and warnings about the danger of sex."
Oswalt Kolle
(German pioneer in sexual education)

Preface

PART I:
UNREDEEMED EROS - UNREDEEMED WORLD
So that’s what it’s really all about
Sexuality - A World Power
Eros and Apocalypse
There can be no Peace on Earth as long as there is War in Love
High-Tech in War, Neanderthal in Love
We have done to Eros what we did to the Rivers
Eros and Religion - The Observance of Origins

PART II:
THE SEXUAL ISSUE
Everyone wants it, but what is it?
The Parable of the Mount
From the Bliss of First Love to the Daily Routine of Marriage
Free Love and Couple Relationships
The Power of Anonymous Sexuality
The Longing for Self-abandonment, but without Contempt.
Healthy Nymphomania and the Hunger of our Cells
The Compulsion to Lie
False Morality and True Ethics
Suppressed Longing and Unlived Life
Last Night in the Bar
My Friend Martin
Sexuality between Longing and Shame
Women over 40
Tenderness and the Intimacy Afterwards
The Myth of Orgasm
Impotence - Energy with no Way Out
Sexual Hopelessness of the Organism
Am I attractive enough? Reflections on sexual Attraction
An Appeal to Women
It has Nothing to do with Sex?

PART III
PRIMAL PAIN AND JEALOUSY
Primal Pain
What is Jealousy and where does it come from?
Is Asthma a Part of Breathing?
The basic Contradiction of Love

PART IV:
LIBERATING EROS
A Universal Process of Emerging Love
A Culture free of sexual Repression
Knowing love
Trust as a Recipe for Healing
An alternative Concept of Faithfulness
Depsychologizing Love
Creating Spaces for a new Encounter of the Sexes
Sexpeace and Greenpeace: Peace between the Sexes and Peace with Nature
A Home for Children
Eros redeemed

High-Tech in War, Neanderthal in Love
(Chapter of the book: Eros Unredeemed, by Dieter Duhm, © Verlag Meiga)

Homo sapiens has until now invested his intelligence in war, not in love. Evolution researchers and neural physiologists have had serious worries that this could be a result of a brain malfunction. Humans, especially men, have wasted their libido on weapons, tanks, battleships, and missiles, an indication that war turns them on more than peace. War is sexy. All disarmament agreements until this day have failed because of this inextinguishable characteristic of the male psyche. The fervor with which war heroes perform their military strategy games surpasses by several orders of magnitude the lust with which they make love to their wives. Man, stuck in childhood, thus finds his use here, his meaning and his holy purpose. He does not yet know Woman, because even as his mother she eluded him, all the more reason for him to cherish the sacrament of war.

The game of war is probably as old as man himself, having its origin in an archaic and paleolithic impulse. When the Cromagnon Man assaulted and exterminated the Neanderthal, he may have felt something similar to what Alexander’s soldiers in Tyros felt, or the American soldiers in My Lai, Vietnam. Man is seized by an urge to destroy, which at times surpasses all other urges. And when the communists were leading their brothers to sunlight and freedom, their combat song ended with the cry, ”Sacred is the final battle!”, although they did not otherwise believe in anything holy. Love was just as unattainable for man as distant poetry, but war was his oath and command. Sex was merely a physical necessity, the canon was a sacrament. If in the course of history man had taken as much care of his wife and children as he had of his sword and canons, we would long have found the Garden of Eden on Earth.

Man has developed remote control projectiles, electronic defense systems and self-guided cruise missiles; here nothing seemed to him to be impossible. But where love is concerned, the same man snorts with jealousy, turns as red as a baboon or as pale as a ghost. On the one hand, men employ the most advanced technologies in planning interstellar war, but where women are concerned they resort to hand-axes. Whereas the cerebrum is applied in war technology, in love man lives and thinks out of his spinal cord. Whereas in the game of war the rules are determined by discipline and far-sightedness, in love all emotions are permitted. Without even giving it a second thought we employ two different standards here, a very high standard for war and a very low one for love. In the weapons industry the bar is placed at 8 feet; in love most people fail to jump over the bar even when it is placed at only 2 feet, since they have learned that love is a matter of the heart and not something which can be the object of intellectual exploration. The fact that weapons technology and success in warfare are linked to research is obvious to everyone. But the idea that love could also have something to do with research and understanding lies beyond the prevailing Stone Age consciousness. Whereas they are prepared to go through the toughest tests of endurance in war, in love they seek the greenest pasture land to graze on. Whereas in weapons laboratories systems analysis and computer data processing are employed, we still follow the old fairy tales when love is concerned. We should not attempt to fool ourselves here. The progressive-dynamic sport shoe generation of today adorns itself with super-electronics and galactic hair styles, but in their hearts they still dream the same fairy-tale dreams of our grannies. The cars and the changes in fashion have become faster, but serious reflection on matters of love has not.

If today, we want to create a transition from a period of violence to a new era of structural non-violence, then we have to totally change our priorities. The same love and attention, the same conscientiousness and reliability, the same force of will and intelligence with which humans have thus far used to destroy each other must now be used to promote sexual love. We can no longer confront the omnipotence of war with white doves and pious songs. Our latent fascination with war and destruction is too great, too sincere and too profound, whereas our ideas and images of peace have so far been much too weak, immature and half-hearted. Not until we have found something even greater and more fascinating than warfare and power play will we be able to believe in the possibility of overcoming war on a global scale, and this something could well be sensual love based on friendship and solidarity and on a sincere, powerful, and erotic relationship between the sexes, in short, a true reunion of man and woman. The only kind of will power and intelligence which can enable us to thoroughly and permanently clear out the ancient martial nooks and crannies of the soul is one which is capable of creating the basic structures of a love-life without fear and violence. Human beings, who have sent space ships into outer space, will also be able to solve the problem of unredeemed Eros if they fully dedicate themselves to this task with all their will power and intelligence. What we must keep in mind is the fact that the sources, energies and growth processes of Creation are directed towards a true love potential which we can realize if we are aware of it. Processes of germination and growth, flows in water and the learning processes of a child show us something about the essence of life and love, that can no longer be ignored. Life is boundless and limitless and without burden, it cannot be squeezed into pre-conceived, linear structures.

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